Okay...This is my 1st year in college...as a freshman in H.S. the plan was to always go to a university in California or New York...I live in North Carolina...I've always been the type of kid who wanted to follow their dreams and prove the doubters wrong...Have always wanted a career in fashion..even thought about modeling or acting in order to get to where I would like to be in the industry....Okay so my parents suggested that I attend a college here for the 1st two years and then transfer to Cali or N.Y....As much as I hated this idea...I went along with it....So then I became interested in a school that offered a degree in Fashion/Photography/Designing/Pro Audio....things of that nature..which is something I've always dreamt of having a career in...I presented this interest to my parents...they argued that I should get in the medical field(dental hygienist,etc.)...So I'm like..I'll just go get the dental certificate and in two years start going to shcool for what I really want to go for...Two weeks ago I had a meeting with my advisor who told me that I needed to finish taking some required courses before I could even get into the dental program to start taking the dental courses...she also stated that since the program is only offered in the fall...I couldn't get into the program until 2011..so today I talked to my parents and suggested that I go ahead and go to the Fashion school next semester while also taking the required Dental courses at the community college(it's like 2 or 3 courses)...you know instead of taking other classes at the comm. college that i don't really need(waste of money)...My Father immediately went CRAZY...Yelling saying ...YOU NEED TO GET A TRADE OR SKILL SO YOU'LL BE ABLE TO GET A GOOD JOB..and I'm constantly trying to tell him that..while I'm taking the required courses for dental program(which are not going to equal up to a FULL SCHEDULE)....I could also go to the fashion school..to keep myself busy instead of just waiting around for 2011...hell who knows what could happen between now and then....he just didn't listen to nothing I was trying to say...So I'm sitting here thinking that I'm actually almost living my life for my parents instead of doing what makes me Happy and what I think is best for me...but I'm constantly trying to Please them...I'm to the point where I'm thinking about just going to my 1st choice Unvi. in Cali or N.Y next fall and just go from there...I willing to take that risk in order to reach my goals....I don't want to grow up one of those people who didn't follow their dreams(goals) and are just soo freakin' depressed in their older years because they tried to please other people all the time instead of doing what was right for them...I love my parents and I know they're just trying to suggest whats best for me...but it comes to a point where I feel as though I have to just do Me...In all honesty I don't even want to be in the Dental program..I'm just doing it for Them..so they'll stop bitching...I'm definately the go-getter type of person and I feel as though I'm being held back because I want their support..but I honestly believe that they feel as though if I go out to Cali. or New York...or even just follow my goals...I'll completely Fail and or will start living the a life that they didn't plan for me...and time is ticking...life is to short....I mean i don't mind working at a Mall clothing store or something until I reach my goal...Please reply you guys...this thing is really bothering me and I'm 19 and Stressing *which isn't a good thing..lol*...and PLEASE no negative bitchy comments...I've had enough of those tonight.Living life for parents...instead of yourself!!!?
My grandmother was the same, I had to get on a plane for her to see that I was serious. Tell your parents calmly that they are trying to live your life, if they wont listen to that, and their paying for your education, your might have to find another way to pay for it, once you working hard to make you own way, they might start taking you seriousLiving life for parents...instead of yourself!!!?
If you are a goal oriented person and you have proven by your grades that you are driven, they have no good reason to doubt that you can achieve this.
Explain that to them. Tell them that you are a good investment.
Remind them of past goals achieved.Living life for parents...instead of yourself!!!?
I'm 54 and have been doing a job I hate for the last 30 years because I didn't have enough confidence in myself to do what I really was interested in. You know what interests you and you have a goal - follow your heart and go after that. Every day I go to work I feel like I'm wasting my professional life doing something I'm not well-suited for and have little interest in. Don't make the same mistake I did.
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