Okay...This is my 1st year in college...as a freshman in H.S. the plan was to always go to a university in California or New York...I live in North Carolina...I've always been the type of kid who wanted to follow their dreams and prove the doubters wrong...Have always wanted a career in fashion..even thought about modeling or acting in order to get to where I would like to be in the industry....Okay so my parents suggested that I attend a college here for the 1st two years and then transfer to Cali or N.Y....As much as I hated this idea...I went along with it....So then I became interested in a school that offered a degree in Fashion/Photography/Designing/Pro Audio....things of that nature..which is something I've always dreamt of having a career in...I presented this interest to my parents...they argued that I should get in the medical field(dental hygienist,etc.)...So I'm like..I'll just go get the dental certificate and in two years start going to shcool for what I really want to go for...Two weeks ago I had a meeting with my advisor who told me that I needed to finish taking some required courses before I could even get into the dental program to start taking the dental courses...she also stated that since the program is only offered in the fall...I couldn't get into the program until 2011..so today I talked to my parents and suggested that I go ahead and go to the Fashion school next semester while also taking the required Dental courses at the community college(it's like 2 or 3 courses)...you know instead of taking other classes at the comm. college that i don't really need(waste of money)...My Father immediately went CRAZY...Yelling saying ...YOU NEED TO GET A TRADE OR SKILL SO YOU'LL BE ABLE TO GET A GOOD JOB..and I'm constantly trying to tell him that..while I'm taking the required courses for dental program(which are not going to equal up to a FULL SCHEDULE)....I could also go to the fashion school..to keep myself busy instead of just waiting around for 2011...hell who knows what could happen between now and then....he just didn't listen to nothing I was trying to say...So I'm sitting here thinking that I'm actually almost living my life for my parents instead of doing what makes me Happy and what I think is best for me...but I'm constantly trying to Please them...I'm to the point where I'm thinking about just going to my 1st choice Unvi. in Cali or N.Y next fall and just go from there...I willing to take that risk in order to reach my goals....I don't want to grow up one of those people who didn't follow their dreams(goals) and are just soo freakin' depressed in their older years because they tried to please other people all the time instead of doing what was right for them...I love my parents and I know they're just trying to suggest whats best for me...but it comes to a point where I feel as though I have to just do Me...In all honesty I don't even want to be in the Dental program..I'm just doing it for Them..so they'll stop bitching...I'm definately the go-getter type of person and I feel as though I'm being held back because I want their support..but I honestly believe that they feel as though if I go out to Cali. or New York...or even just follow my goals...I'll completely Fail and or will start living the a life that they didn't plan for me...and time is ticking...life is to short....I mean i don't mind working at a Mall clothing store or something until I reach my goal...Please reply you guys...this thing is really bothering me and I'm 19 and Stressing *which isn't a good thing..lol*...and PLEASE no negative bitchy comments...I've had enough of those tonight.|||Most young people with degrees in fashion, etc, end up working at a mall store for a long time. Most don't make it "big time."
However, most dental tech graduates end up with a paying job in dental tech.
I guess it's up to you -- do you want a steady job and relatively easy life? Or do you want to struggle to make it where you want to go?
I teach adult ed/community college and I see this all the time -- girls wanting to be in the fashion industry, and end up working at Hot Topic.... guys that want to be sports journalists, and end up delivering newspapers.
It's great to dream and to study these fun things, but unless you have a bona fide talent, you're probably not going to be the next Coco Chanel.
You're not a child anymore, and it's time to make the best decisions for yourself. Not your parents. And I hope you have the maturity to make the right decision -- I think this is what your parents are stressing about.|||I'm only fourteen, but I feel like I'm living my life for my Dad sometimes. He's always like, there's your dream college, which is right around the corner. He's really protective, and strict, and he doesn't let me out of his sight. I know how you feel, I do..trust me. But your an adult, so it's different for you. You have to tell them how you feel, and start doing things your way, or else...your entire lifetime is gonna feel like you're living it for them, and not for yourself. And if they don't support you in what you do, then it's not your fault;it's theres. You should pursue what you want to pursue, and your parents should be behing you 100%. And if they're not, it's their loss seeeing their child grow up into a mature adult pursing what they want to do.Good luck.
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